Rule #1: never hope for anything ELSE. Because it IS enough. But if you forget that, you are doomed.
Rule #2: NEVER EVER EVER hope for ANYTHING else.
Rule #2.5: Don't count on anyone, ever. Nobody. And always expect people to bail on you, or you are doomed. Your life is not easy, and it is only fun in ways that you can understand. Because you're your kids' mom. The good things are only visible to you in the best moments. Nobody else wants this. Remember that, and be okay with it.
Rule #3: remind yourself every day never to hope for anything else. Why? because..
Rule #4: Your kids are the BEST thing that will ever happen to you. Not a man. Not a friend. Not a job. Not a career. Not a million dollars. Your kids.
That is all.
"Hope is the worst of all evils, for it prolongs the torment of man." - Friedrich Nietzsche